
When you begin dating a single parent, it’s important to understand their family dynamic and take your time forming a bond with their children. However, as your relationship grows, you may become even closer with their children. When you decide marriage is right for you, you may be elated to become a stepparent. However, it’s imperative to familiarize yourself with the rights of stepparents so you understand your responsibilities to help keep boundaries between you and your new family. The following blog explores what you should know about these matters and why connecting with a Nassau County family law attorney is imperative if you experience any issues.
What Are the Legal Rights of Stepparents in NY?
It’s important to understand that in New York, like most states, stepparents who have not legally adopted their stepchildren have virtually no legal rights over the children. As such, you have no right to make medical or schooling decisions on behalf of the child. While you can attend doctor’s appointments or school meetings, for example, the biological parent must authorize medical care or enrollment in school. However, if the other parent provides written consent, certain decisions may be made by the stepparent.
It’s also important to understand what happens in the event you and your spouse should divorce. While generally, stepparents have no legal right to custody, they may be able to petition for visitation rights if they can prove it’s in the best interest of the child, even if they were never adopted.
If you wish to adopt your stepchild, it’s important to understand that this can be an incredibly complicated process. Typically, you need the consent of the other parent to adopt the child, which can be difficult, especially if the divorce is contentious. In other circumstances, the court may revoke the parental rights of the other parent’s rights.
How Can I Work With My Spouse’s Ex?
When you become a stepparent, it’s important to understand the child’s routine and what is expected of them so they can have as little disruption in their life as possible. As such, you may want to sit down with your spouse and their ex to discuss matters like discipline, chores, and routines, so you are all on the same page. This ensures you can seamlessly fit into the family dynamic, creating less conflict between the parental figures and cohesion in the child’s life.
Whether you’re looking to adopt your stepchild or your spouse’s ex is creating issues for you and your partner, it’s in your best interest to connect with an experienced attorney from Barrows Levy. Our team has the experience you need to help you navigate these complicated issues to fight for the best possible outcome. When you need help, don’t hesitate to contact our team today.