The Dos and Donts to Consider When Facing Divorce Proceedings

The Dos and Donts to Consider When Facing Divorce Proceedings

To achieve the outcome you desire when facing a divorce, there are many actions and behaviors to consider. Continue reading to learn the “dos” and “don’ts” for individuals who are proceeding with a divorce.

The “Dos” of a Divorce

Consider the following actions and behaviors that can positively impact your divorce proceedings to achieve a smooth and painless legal process:

  • Seek out a CPA or accountant to help review the tax implications of your divorce
  • Comply with any court-ordered injunctions and restrictions
  • Pay your child support on time
  • When filling out your inventory, disclose all assets and liabilities
  • Collect your real estate deeds, and mortgage documents, your last two tax returns
  • Examine your credit history 
  • Get a credit report
  • Keep any copies of money paid to your spouse
  • Keep a journal to document the exchange and pick up of your children
  • Be aware of your household budget and expenses
  • Make a copy of your spouse’s last two paycheck stubs
  • Seek help for any alcohol or illegal substance abuse
  • Maintain good co-parenting practices with your spouse
  • Know the total balance on any joint checking and savings bank accounts
  • Change the passwords to all of your email accounts 
  • Change the passwords to all of your social media sites
  • Know the balance on your retirement plans, 401(k), pension plan, etc.

The “Don’ts” of a Divorce

The following are behaviors and actions to avoid when facing a divorce that could negatively impact the proceedings and potentially impact your divorce outcome for the worse:

  • Sell property without the court’s permission
  • Keep things from your attorney
  • Increase your debt while the divorce is pending
  • Give large contributions to anyone during the proceedings
  • Withhold visitation from your spouse for their failure to make child support payments
  • Get pregnant or get anyone pregnant
  • Buy real estate or any extravagant items while the divorce is pending
  • Send mean or negative emails, texts, messages, etc. to your spouse
  • Start another romantic relationship during the proceedings
  • Bring a new significant other around your children or the court hearings
  • Remove children from their current school
  • Discuss the case with your children or use them as intermediaries
  • Criticize your spouse in front of your children
  • Move out of state with your children
  • Post information regarding your divorce on social media
  • Post content on social media that can be used against you


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