How Do I Get Through a Divorce from a Narcissist?

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One of the most stressful things about getting through a divorce is trying to diffuse any conflicts that may arise between you and your spouse. But if your spouse tends to be a narcissist, this can be all the more stressful, and even create an all-out war in your divorce proceedings. Read on to discover the best approaches for getting through your divorce from a narcissist and how a seasoned Nassau County contested divorce lawyer of Barrows Levy PLLC can defend you throughout the process.

What is a narcissist?

By definition, a narcissist is a person who tends to be emotionally manipulative and who thrives on chaos and drama. That said, if your former spouse has narcissistic tendencies, then they will likely not be fair throughout your divorce proceedings. What’s worse is that they may even put their own needs before your child’s needs.

What strategies should I use to get through my divorce from a narcissist?

If you a getting a divorce from a narcissist, one of your top priorities should be to keep your sanity intact. So, below is a comprehensive list of strategies to help keep tensions in check when getting through your divorce:

  • Practice acceptance: as desirable as an amicable divorce may be, this is unfortunately highly unlikely when divorcing a narcissist. So, if you accept that you will most likely not have one, this can keep you focused on best fighting for your and your child’s needs.
  • Educate yourself: as trivial as it may sound, books about narcissism can help you find ways to interact with this personality type without getting sucked into their drama. Also, it may be beneficial to speak with a therapist who is well-trained in high-conflict divorce.
  • Do not show emotion: it is important to understand that while your spouse wants a divorce, as a narcissist, they will want to remain emotionally engaged with you so that they can continue to control you. This means that they will likely act nasty to get your attention (i.e., send hostile messages, criticize you to your children, make false allegations against you in court, etc). So, instead of responding with emotion, you should try to stay calm and disengage as soon as possible.
  • Hire one of the competent divorce attorneys in Nassau County: again, your spouse may feed on the conflict that comes with litigation. This can cause the court process to be extensive, expensive, and emotionally draining. This is why you need an attorney who is trained in navigating high-conflict divorce proceedings and will prevent your spouse from overriding the process. Nonetheless, you must give our firm a call today.


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