How Does a Nesting Arrangement Work for Divorced Couples in NY?

During a child visitation, a young child focused on drawing with colored pencils while lying on a couch, with an adult sitting beside her, observing her artwork.

When you and your spouse decide to divorce, you will undoubtedly face overwhelming emotions. However, if you have children, it’s imperative to understand how they will be impacted by this change as well. Because a divorce can be disruptive for children, you and your spouse may agree to do everything possible to minimize the impact on your family. This may include agreeing to a nesting arrangement. You’ll want to keep reading if you are unfamiliar with what this entails. The following blog explores this arrangement in further detail and why you must connect with a Nassau County family law attorney for further assistance with these matters.

What Is a Nesting Arrangement?

A nesting arrangement occurs when both divorcing parents agree that their children will reside in the family home while the parents take turns moving in and out. This is an alternative option to the traditional path of moving your children back and forth between parents with an alternating custody schedule.

The main goal of this arrangement is to ease children into the changes divorce will bring. This is less disruptive for children, as it allows them to remain in the family home they are used to instead of moving between new locations. It’s important to understand that this is not intended as a long-term solution. Instead, it is a short-term way for children to grow more comfortable with the change their family dynamic is undergoing.

What Are the Pros and Cons of This Option?

As with anything, there are advantages and disadvantages to choosing a nesting arrangement. One of the major advantages is, as previously mentioned, that you can reduce the emotional impact your divorce will have on your children. By remaining in the space they are familiar with, they may grow more used to alternating which parent they are spending time with more easily. Additionally, they don’t have to worry about feeling like they are being overlooked or not prioritized during this time.

Additionally, you may find that nesting allows you to cut costs on your divorce. If you and your spouse can work together, you may be able to share a one-bedroom apartment for the parent who does not havecustody at the time. For example, you may live in the shared space while your ex is at the family home and vice versa. This can help reduce the cost of carrying a mortgage while searching for new housing, as you can split the expense of the shared living space.

However, one of the disadvantages of this option is that it can be challenging to maintain. You may find that your emotions from the divorce, whether anger, betrayal, or grief, can make navigating this arrangement difficult. Failure to set clear boundaries regarding dating, household chores, and other responsibilities can make this an unhealthy living situation.

As you can see, nesting is an ideal option for some families. If interested in pursuing this choice, it’s in your best interest to connect with an experienced attorney as soon as possible to explore your legal options and determine the best choice for you and your family. At Barrows Levy, PLLC, our dedicated team of attorneys is ready to assist. Connect with us today to discuss your circumstances.

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